The interview below has to be the most inspirational, uplifting interview I have ever watched in my life. If you have 50 minutes to spare.... do yourself a favor and watch this interview. You won't regret it!
In this interview... Lisa mentions two things you must do daily to release the negative thinking we often create in our minds about ourselves.
1. Every morning, stand in front of a mirror and look yourself straight in the eyes and speak three sentences seven different times. State out loud seven different reasons for each sentence topic below. Add your own words to the name blank and finish the sentence.
2. Every day do something that makes you feel like you are INVESTING IN YOURSELF. Eat healthy, exercise, "get a healing massage" (or receive some other healing modality), put money away in your DREAM FUND, fill your mind with positive images of the future, etc. Whatever you can think of that will help you feel like you are investing positively in YOU.
Learn how to fall madly in love with YOU.
Thanks for reading, enjoy the rest of your day, LOVE YOURSELF... and BE PEACE POSITIVE!
REMEMBER: You can't love someone from your cup... you have to love from your saucer... your overflow. Meaning you have to love yourself FIRST before you can ever REALLY, TRULY love someone else properly.
AND.... to move forward in a positive direction in your life, you must LET THE PAST GO!
Every year, I always view April Fool's Day as a sad day. It is the day my mother's husband Bruce passed away almost two decades ago. It was a very bizarre time in my life. I was in my early 30's.
Two weeks before Bruce passed away... I was told he would die. Although, I didn't know it was HIM that would die. Two weeks before was when I had my very first ever encounter with a tarot reader. I remember it like it was yesterday....
Her name was Brenda. An older, kind woman who loved to decorate her house with primitive country decorations. I would have NEVER guessed she was a psychic, medium, white witch who read tarot cards for 35+ years. I was at her home doing a candle party for her. Back then I sold candles through a company I had created called, Angelic Baskets and Candlelight. I remember at the end of the night, she told me about her ability and asked me if I wanted a reading. Coming for a strict religious upbringing... I declined and told her that I didn't believe in that sort of thing. She asked me if I had ever had a reading? I said NO. She then said to me.... "How can you judge something you have never experienced?" DAMN.... that was a GOOD question!
So, against everything I had been taught as a child about God, tarot readers, hell, heaven, etc.... I accepted the invitation for a reading. All the way up those stairs to the reading room, I kept saying, "OMG.... I can't believe I'm doing this! I'm going to be in so much trouble! God is gonna send me to hell!" LOL!!!! I was so religiously brainwashed!
The first thing she did was hand me a deck of cards and told me to shuffle them. I asked her why and if she didn't know how to shuffle? She chuckled and said to me, "Honey, I can't read your energy if you don't shuffle the cards." I said, "What? My energy? What are you talking about?" I had NO CLUE what she meant by that. I had never thought of myself as "energy". This was my first experience of being "enlightened". Having my consciousness opened to areas of life that I was completely unaware of.
So I shuffled the cards and handed them back to her. She asked me to cut the deck to. I was almost annoyed. Okay bossy lady! She asked me if I had a question. I said, "Why would I have a question?" She said most people want to know something. Like if their partner is cheating or if they will get a new job... stuff like that. I said, "No, I don't have a question... just tell me whatever comes up." She then laid out her Celtic cross on card at a time.... and then stared at the cards.... for a long time.... not saying a single word. It was a little awkward. When she finally spoke, she said, "I have to apologize to you." I said, "Why???" She said, "Because what I am about to tell you, I am NOT supposed to tell you. It is a rule in tarot reading that when you see this come across in someone's reading, you do not say anything about it. But your Spirit Guides are SCREAMING at me that I MUST tell you this! So I have to tell you."
I must have looked at her like she had three heads. I said, "What? Spirit Guides? And YOU can hear them???" (Okay crazy lady!!!) She said, "Yes, I have had a gift since I was three years old. I can see the spirits of the dead and Spirit Guides.... and I can hear them too."
I wasn't really sure if I believed her or not. But I didn't really believe in any of this so I thought.... Okay, whatever. She went on to tell me what she saw.
She said, "You have a member of your family who is a non-blood relative. A male. He is in your family, but not of the same blood. He is going to die in two weeks. Do you know who this could be?" I was kinda shocked and the only person I could think of was my step father who raised me. She said, "Whoever this was did a lot of drugs when they were younger." I said... ."Well, I don't think my step father did drugs." She went on to say... "Your Guides are showing me how this man is going to die. Do you want to know?" Not really believing any of it... I said Okay.
She said, "I'm not sure what this is.... but I see a ball of blood. It may be a tumor. This is how he is going to die." Then she went on to tell me other things. She said, "You have two women on power in your life. A blond and a brunette." She was RIGHT! I worked at D& H Physical Therapy in Pawtucket, RI at the time, and I had two female bosses. (A married lesbian couple. It was a family fun business... and it was horrible!) She said, "The brunette is not a nice lady. Do not trust her. (She was right about that too!) The blond one however.... exactly ONE week after this man dies.... she is going to have an emergency and she will be out of work for 2-3 months." Then lastly, she picked up the very last card and said, "Oh look, you got the wheel of fortune card." And I immediately thought... "I'm gonna win the LOTTERY!!!!" And as soon as I thought it... she looked at me and said, "It's not money honey!" I gasped inside and thought.... OMG, SHE CAN READ MY MIND!!!
She went on to say, "About six months after this man dies, you are going to get something. But it is something tangible. It could be jewelry, furniture, clothes, etc. It's something physical, but NOT money." (DAMN!) The reading ends.
I head home, and I decide to brush it all aside. It can't be real. I don't believe in these things.
Two weeks go by.... TO THE DAY. It's 10am and I am at my office. The phone rings. I pick it up. It is Landmark Hospital in Woonsocket. The nurse explains to me that my mother has given her permission for me to be told over the phone that her husband died this morning and she has to identify the body, but does not want to do it alone. Can I come down and do it with her? I gasped and dropped the phone! .
Bruce had died on April 1st. April Fool's Day. He was just 35 years old. (My mother married someone 15 years younger than her. She always like the younger boys!) It was his first day at a new job. His new boss was bringing him to the garage he would be working in when on the way down the hill to that garage he suddenly collapsed and died on the spot. The ambulance was called and he was rushed to the hospital. But he was already gone. My mother had a difficult job that day trying to get people to believe her that Bruce had died. She called his old job that he had been at for decades to get his life insurance information. They teased her about it being April Fools.... "HaHaHa April Fools Paulette", they said. She had to convince them that she was serious.
I remember going into the room to help her identify the body. I had NEVER in my life seen a dead body. It was surreal. He had blood coming out of every opening. His eyes, ears, nose, mouth. The autopsy would reveal that it was a ball of blood. A bubble. A left aortic aneurysm that had burst. Killed him instantly.
I remember having to drive his truck home. That was so strange to me. I wondered if he was in the truck with me while I was driving it. It was HIS truck that he drove earlier that morning. No one expected this. Well, sort of.
I had some guilt because I thought I could have prevented it because I was given knowledge that he was going to die. Only I didn't realize it was HIM. Bruce was my mothers third husband and not the step father that raised me. I had to tell my mother that I knew. At the funeral... I asked her, "Did Bruce do drugs when he was younger?" She said, "Oh yes... he did." She also told me that the night he died... she thinks he came back home to say goodbye. She said it was a little after midnight, and she was just falling asleep with swollen eyes from crying all day. Her two large dogs were in the bed with her. She said all of a sudden, something kicked the bed so hard that it startled her and the dogs (terrified them) and all three of them jumped out of bed and stared at the bed. She said she remembered that Bruce wore steel toed boots... and thought how it sounded like a boot kicking the bed. So she took that as a Goodbye. (Bruce would visit me a few months later... but that's a different story!)
All the other things the tarot reader told me came true also. Every single one... and exactly WHEN she said they would happen. My blond boss had to have an emergency lumbarectomy (came into work exactly one week after Bruce died in a wheelchair and announced that she would be out for two months), and my wheel of fortune card came true too. Six months later, my mom decided to sell their house (it was too much for her to take care of by herself) and she bought all new furniture when she moved... and gave me ALL of hers. Living room set, bedroom set, kitchen set, desk, etc.
That tarot reader later became a treasured friend, teacher and mentor. She taught me how to read the tarot. (I'm just too chicken to do it!)
So there you have it.... this is why April Fool's Day is a sad day to me.
We miss you Bruce! Happy April Fool's Day....
Saturday, (yesterday) after my shift at LaRose... I went straight to my new office to sign the lease and get the keys! OMG... I can't believe my lifelong dream of having my very own office has finally come true!
NOW.... TO DECORATE MY OFFICE! God, I LOVE to decorate! I want to make this office as soft, warm, inviting, soothing and relaxing as I possibly can with the tiny 10x10 space I have. It's gonna be a tight squeeze, but I will do it... and do it WELL! Because this part comes so naturally to me.
To all my friends, family and fellow massage therapists.... YOU will have special massage rates. Be sure to ask me about it! I hope you all will come visit me in Foxboro for a professional, relaxing massage sometime.
As soon as I can, I will post pictures of the finished results. But first.... I must PAINT!
Then the state has to come down and do their establishment inspection so I can get my Establishment License. Once that is done.... I can officially open up shop and start seeing clients. I'm hoping by mid-late May.
My new private office location will be:
40 Mechanic Street
Foxboro, MA 02035
Yesterday I had such a great day. 🌞 Waters work was busy... But good as always. After Waters... When I got to LaRose for my massage shift....my first client was supposed to be a prenatal client. But I discovered that she cancelled and I now had a client named Donna. Little did I realize it was the Donna that I worked with that was also a massage therapist. That.made me VERY nervous.
I've never had to massage a fellow co-worker / massage therapist. Its intimidating massaging a fellow massage therapist because you feel.like you get judged or critiqued. Its a good thing... But it also makes you nervous. What if they hate it? So before the massage I told her I was nervous... and she said don't worry about it...."I always get nervous massaging another therapist too."
So I did my massage and left the room. When she came out... I was in the linen closet getting sheets. She came into the closet and said to me. "Don't you EVER be nervous to give another therapist a massage! Kehrey... that was one of the BEST massages I have ever gotten in my entire LIFE! That was AMAZING!!!" I swear to God... I wanted to cry and held back my tears. It made me so happy inside to feel that... Hey... I am really good at "something" in my life and people appreciate that.
So my next client shows up... She is a regular and I am happy to see her. Some clients almost become good friends that you see once a month... and every month you "catch up" on life events with each other. She was one of those.
So I finish the massage... She is always happy with it. I come out to the reception area and the receptionist (who basically runs LaRose... for 17 years), says to me with a huge smile on her face.... "Go check your phone!" I said "Why?" She said... "Just when you get a chance, go check your phone." So a few minutes later, I go check my phone and discover our new boss (new owner of LaRose) texted me to.let me know that while I was massaging my second client... Donna (who has been at LaRose for 11 years) had been RAVING about the massage she had just received to Wendy. She told Wendy... "Thats one of the BEST (if not the best) massages I have ever gotten... Excellent!" Well at that time, the boss calls in and he hears about it too. And he was so pleased he made it a point to reach out and tell me how much he appreciated that I am on his team... and appreciates that I give so much when I give someone a massage.
I told him that I treat EVERY client as I would treat myself...Every time I give it ALL I've got. I want every client to get off that table and feel like they just had the most amazing, relaxing experience and WANT to come back. 💕
OFFICE UPDATE... Passed my credit report. (Whoo-Hoooo!!!) Signing the lease at the end of the month. Will take about 6-8 weeks to get my establishment license.... depending upon when I mail it in. (Jen Nicholson we should mail ours in together with a note explaining why... That way maybe they can inspect both offices on the same day.)
The wait will give me time to get everything I need and set it up just the way I want it. I am SUPER excited!!! Looking forward to having a place to serve family, friends and new clients of my own. 💕 I love helping people feel good.
I had a client at LaRose tell me the other day toward the end of the massage... working on the back... "You know I'm drooling, right!" LOL!!!! 😂 Another one who has been seeing me faithfully for a year... told me she would write up an awesome review for me. She said... "Anything to help you! I Love You... if you ever leave here I will hunt you down and follow you!" A few of my clients at LaRose have said that. It makes you feel so good inside. I give my all when I give a massage
Its tough sometimes to find a therapist that really does what you want them to do. I always say... I wish I could clone myself so I could give myself a massage. 😂
For people who have never had one... Just get ONE with a good massage therapist. I guarantee you will be hooked! Every new client I have ever seen always comes out of that room so relaxed and so happy... and 9 out of 10 times they always say... "I should have done this YEARS ago!" Personally, I would go weekly (even daily) if I could! The stress just melts away... 💕
I see parents bring their kids in and think...."Lucky kid... I wish my mom had started me on massages when I was younger." So many people just don't understand the HUGE health and healing benefits of it.
More and more people are not getting enough sleep. If you are one of them, then you know the toll that it can take on your health, your livelihood, and how you handle life’s curveballs. If that isn’t enough, the United States alone loses up to $411 billion dollars every year because people are missing work due to their lack of sleep.
Not sleeping enough can also make you sick, contribute to weight gain, and even contribute to depression. Clearly, we need to get more sleep!
While there are medical interventions that will help some people sleep better, these often have significant side effects. If they are the only way to sleep, they are worth a try, but there are some other things to try first.
One of these “others” is massage. Most people love getting massages. They leave feeling relaxed and like the body moves better than it did when they came in. In addition to these benefits, massage can also help you sleep better.
Who Does Massage Help?
While there is some evidence that massage can help almost anyone sleep better, it has been shown to help people in specific populations.
For instance, massage helps postpartum women sleep better. The postpartum period can be extremely stressful for a new mom. Not only is she learning to care for her baby, but her own hormones can be all over the place. This causes her to be emotional, to have high stress levels, and to feel generally unlike herself. All of this can combine to cause her to struggle with sleep. However, when women in this situation received massages for 20 minutes a day on five consecutive days, they slept better.
Massage also helps fibromyalgia patients improve their sleep. Many people with this debilitating disease struggle to sleep because they are in so much pain. Massage helped them to that point that they had fewer tender spots on their bodies and lower levels of a neurotransmitter associated with pain. These people also slept more. They also moved less in the night, which indicates a higher quality of sleep.
Massage also helps hospitalized cancer patients to rest well. It’s always hard to get good sleep in the hospital because people check on you throughout the night. When you add the stress of cancer and any pain or anxiety that can come with being in the hospital, sleep can be extremely elusive. However, patients who received massages at night reported better sleep, despite all of these other factors.
Acupressure is a type of self-massage, and studies have shown that it can help menopausal women sleep better. Women in this stage of life notoriously struggle with sleep, so this technique could bring a lot of relief to many women, and they don’t even have to leave the house! Women who massaged 4 pressure points over 10 minutes before they went to bed slept better than women given sham acupressure techniques and women given no massage techniques at all.
Massage also helps with insomnia in general, whether it is tied to pain or anxiety or not. While the majority of these studies have taken place in the hospital setting, the fact that massage can help there should bring hope that it can help anywhere. People tend to feel more pain and anxiety when they’re in the hospital than they do when they’re out. If it can help there, it should be able to help with insomnia at home, too.
How Does Massage Help With Sleep?
There are a few ways that massage can help lead to better sleep. While science may not understand the details of each one, researchers have shown that massage can do the following things.
Massage and Serotonin is essential for good sleep, though researchers have not yet pinpointed exactly what it does to facilitate falling asleep and/or staying asleep. However, when serotonin production is halted using medication, subjects cannot sleep at all.
Scientists do know that an area of the brain called the raphe nuclei somehow mediates sleep. The neurons in this area specifically use serotonin to communicate with each other, so they hypothesize that serotonin somehow helps the brain communicate that it’s time to sleep.
Serotonin is also a precursor to the production of melatonin. This chemical helps regulate the body’s sleep/wake cycles, or its circadian rhythms. The body produces melatonin when it’s time to fall asleep and reduces it when it’s time to wake up. Thus, having more serotonin could help your body produce the melatonin it needs in order to fall asleep at the right time.
All of this ties into massage because massage can lead to higher levels of serotonin. Again, science has not discovered the exact mechanism by which this happens. For the insomniac, though, HOW massage helps them sleep is likely less important than the fact that it DOES help them sleep.
Massage and the Vagus NerveIn addition to the serotonin-melatonin connection, massage also stimulates the vagus nerve. This is the major parasympathetic nerve in the body. When it is stimulated, it tells the entire body to relax. This can lead to lower heart rate, lower blood pressure, relaxed facial muscles, and increased gut function.
Stimulation of the vagus nerve also leads to lower cortisol levels. Cortisol is the major stress hormone. When its levels are too high in the body, the body is stressed out. Over time, this leads to fatigue. However, if the cortisol levels aren’t lowered, the body can’t rest well. Stimulating the vagus nerve reduces the cortisol, allowing the body to rest as it should.
Massage and Hyperarousal. There is some evidence that insomnia is tied to hyperarousal. This is basically the state of being “always on.” If you feel like you can never relax, if you lie down and think about all the things that went wrong today and all that could go on tomorrow, you may suffer from this condition. It can lead to long-term health problems, of which insomnia is one.
Hyperarousal is a bad cycle for the body. It often starts with a stressful event, one that truly requires the system to be aroused. However, it continues when we worry, when we can’t relax after something bad happens, or when our bodies continue to struggle with low levels of pain because of an accident or an illness. Pain can also come when we can’t relax. We continue the cycle of arousal, which makes us more stressed out, etc.
Massage can help break this cycle. It can actually force the body to relax, pulling muscles smooth and long again and causing an increase in blood circulation. These send signals to the brain that tell it to relax. Over time, massage can intervene in this cycle and end hyperarousal, allowing us to sleep well again.
How to Use Massage to Improve Sleep
It’s helpful to know that massage can help improve your sleep, but it can be hard to put this into practice. Here are some ideas. At least one should work for you.
Get Some MassagesGet on the phone, call up a local massage center or chiropractor’s office, and find someone who can fit you in. However, note that it doesn’t say “Get a Massage.” That’s because most of the studies that have been done use more than one massage. While one would likely be beneficial, the truth is that your body has some long patterns of not sleeping well. It may take regular massages for quite a while to get you sleeping well again.
There are several different types of massage to choose from. Swedish is the most popular in the western world. It is gentle and involves using techniques like long strokes, kneading, and circular motion to help your body relax. Sports massage is similar but tailored toward people who work out regularly or practice a certain sport. Deep tissue massage is a bit rougher and utilizes techniques to get down into layers of muscles that might not otherwise benefit. Trigger point massage focuses on releasing muscles on specific sore spots.
The upside to all of this is that you will feel more relaxed and sleep better. However, getting regular massages can be expensive and inconvenient, too.
Self-Massage. If you can’t make it out to a massage therapist a few times a week or you don’t want to pay for it, there are some massage techniques you can do at home. These can offer you the same benefits as getting a massage, for a much lower price.
Foot reflexology. The bottom of the foot has up to 15,000 nerve endings, and massaging these has been shown to improve health all over the body. While different parts of the foot seem to be connected to particular parts of the body, massaging the bottom of the foot as a whole can also help with relaxation.
Face massage. If you carry stress in your muscles, you may carry more of it in your face than you had thought. Rubbing your face can release this tension, helping you rest better.
Types of MassageMassages to Relieve Stress and Relax.
Some forms of massage therapy are better at promoting a relaxed mind-body state than others. These types of massage are great for helping to ease mental and physical stress that might be hindering your sleep.
Swedish massage: This form of massage is relaxation-focused, using a sequence of long, gliding kneads, strokes, and circular motions to erase shallow tensions in your muscles. Swedish massage helps to reduce superficial muscle tension, while boosting circulation throughout the body.
Hot stone massage: A masseuse uses hot, smooth stones typically placed on your back to relax and invigorate your body. The heat helps to release tension built up in your shoulders and back, allowing the therapist to more easily reach areas of muscle ache.
Massage for Pain and Specific Conditions
Other forms of massage are designed to relieve specific types of pain. The cause of the pain isn’t important. As long as you feel certain that the pain is caused by soft tissue damage or inflammation (as opposed to joint or bone problems), these types of massage can help.
Deep-tissue massage: The practitioner utilizes techniques designed to get beyond the superficial layers of the muscle. If your pain is longstanding or comes back even after repeated Swedish massages, this can help get at its core. These massages can be more painful than relaxation massages, but they can also bring more relief.
Trigger point massage: This type of massage utilizes trigger points to release tension in the muscles. By placing pressure on the point, the muscle is triggered to relax and lengthen, rather than remain short and tight.
Rejuvenating Massage and General Health
Finally, some forms of massage work to relieve specific ailments or help the body find or retain health. These practitioners usually focus on pressure points believed to run along the body’s energy meridians. Massaging these points can help relieve pain and enable the body to become healthier.
Shiatsu massage: A Shiatsu practitioner uses his or her hands, elbow, feet, etc. to place pressure on traditional Japanese pressure points throughout the body. The practitioner also focuses on stretching and rotating limbs in order to free blocked energy so that the body can function as it was designed to.
Reflexology: This form of massage focuses on trigger points in the hands and feet. Each point corresponds to a part of the body or a specific organ. Regular massage of the points associated with a part of the body is said to bring healing and health to that part.
Yesterday... I cried. But the tears were tears of gratitude and self worth. Why? Because yesterday I discovered that someone (or maybe more than one person because there were two orders) purchased artwork (sample attached) that I had created a couple years ago. My artwork was sold in May and in June. I received a notice of payment yesterday, which totally surprised me (I don't even know what product they purchased... and it wasn't a whole lot... but it was SOMETHING. Enough for RedBubble to contact me).
What an INCREDIBLE feeling it is to discover that someone purchased an artwork design that YOU created. I've never had that feeling before... and it made me cry! (I'm still crying!) Someone out there thought a design of mine was worth spending their money on. That just hit me HARD... and I was overwhelmed with gratitude.
There is exactly ONE FB friend on Facebook that knows I love mandalas. Only one friend knows that I have a page called "Mandala Minion". But what that person doesn't know is that I have a store in RedBubble where I upload my designs... so I know it probably wasn't that person that purchased something. But SOMEONE out there in this great big world did... and I want to tell them THANK YOU... so much! You actually made me feel...... grateful and worthy... like my creativity in this world somehow matters too.
Excuse me while I brag a little. I'm a proud Grandma! My first and only granddaughter was born on June 30, 2016 at St. Luke's Hospital in New Bedford MA. Little Jaylee Juniper was welcomed into the world at 7:32 am. She weighed in at 10lbs 1oz... 21.5 inches. She is a beautiful, baby girl, is so precious, and has stolen my heart already. I wish her life's fullest blessings. Gammie GiGi LOVES you Jaylee!!!